When we started homeschooling, I thought Iwas prepared — I had been ateacher for 10 years, withtraining, experience, and aclassroom.
But what came next felt completely different. My son resisted almost everything that looked like learning. Not just distraction — real resistance: refusal, explosions, shutdown, constant pushback. Mostdays felt like a battle.
I thought I had it figured out. I didn’t.
What I didn’t realize at the time was this: I was trying to solve resistance as if it were a behavior problem.
So I pushed. I insisted. I tried to make it work. And the more I pushed, the more resistance I got.
For a long time, I had no idea what was actually going on, or what to do differently. There was no clear method, no roadmap. I had to figure it out step by step, with specialist guidance, observation, and a lot of trial and error.
Within a year, our daily learning dynamic felt completely different — more calm, more cooperation, and space for my child to actually engage and grow.
Not because I pushed more. But because I finally understood what was really going on, and learned how to respond differently.